I think so many people play the "phony" game because it's easier to just "go with the flow". Getting right with yourself is too much work for most people. But there are really only 2 choices; get right with yourself and move on or stay stuck with the "phonies" and be unhappy forever.
Like with me being disabled, it is what it is. I've accepted that and have moved on.
Like with me being disabled, it is what it is. I've accepted that and have moved on.
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Re: Phony
Thu, April 14, 2005 - 6:03 AMFor me -- and I suspect for many of the other sensitive people in this tribe -- being a phony just takes too much energy. I mean, I find it difficult to pretend that I like someone, even if that "someone" happened to be my boss and I knew that it would have been in my best interest to kiss her butt. (As it happened, she didn't hide her contempt of me, either. I am no longer at that job.)
I probably wouldn't be chronically alone if I got better at playing the dating game. At least I would get dinner out of it, no? But people in general irritate me and I would rather be alone...just not ALL the time.
Denise
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Re: Phony
Tue, April 19, 2005 - 10:43 AMwell, part of me not being a 'phony' means I also don't have high expectations of others... so I don't get disappointed as much
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Re: Phony
Tue, April 19, 2005 - 3:47 PMI've noticed that the people who've decided to be give-up, become a phony, and just play the "game", are infuriated by people like me who refuse to follow their example. Their condescending looks seem to say, "Who do you think you are, anyway? Do you think you're *special*?"
Yes, I'm awkward and quiet. But at least I'm me.
