Don't be afraid, there is one out there for you somewhere! Now if I was'nt married........ LOL I dont see how you can be in a relationship if you dont love the other person, but I guess they are out there.

Good luck to you Jenna.
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i think a loving happy person would always attract a another loving soul, ofcourse it would take time but eventually u will be together with the one u want. and incase somone doesn't knock at your door, don't worry, then existence wants u to be alone and maybe it can't find a match for u.

meanwhile u can enjoy your aloneness and try and be happy by yourself

and age is on your side so don't be afraid to move into realtionships, ofcousre u can be wrong but who knwos the next guy in your life maybe the one
also u can keep your options open

life is so strange and things will happen unexpectedly,

I agree with Chris. When I was your age I thought the same way. My mom always told me "there is someone out there for everyone". I knew that it would take a truely special person to ever see me and accept me as I am. It was hard to believe in that sometimes though and I went through a lot of bad relationships before I met my husband. I was 27 when I met him, he's my true soulmate and was definitely worth the wait! When we met I had given up and just decided that alone was where I'd probably stay. I had given up on myself, but he didn't give up on me and I'm grateful he didn't.
The main thing is to not be blind about it and be patient. Your soulmate could be standing right next to you and you might not realize it because you've closed your mind too much and given up. And when you think you have met the one you want to spend your life with.......look deep into his soul. The physical attraction will eventually tone way down and then you'd better have a lot of common interests and be able to talk to him. I believe there is a great guy for you out there, you just haven't met him yet. We all have our hearts broken a million times in the love department, it's part of life and teaches us how to figure out what we truely want.

Hi Jenna,

Well, I have a number of years on you -- and I *have* been married...with children (two daughters). Nevertheless, I have fears somewhat similar to yours in that I am terrified that I will spend the REST of my life alone.

Now that I am a woman of (ahem) a "certain age," there is greater chance of my getting struck by lightning or winning the lottery than ever remarrying. (And I don't even play the lottery.) I seem to be considered attractive only by men who are close to my parents' age -- who are already married. Meanwhile (I apologize in advance for my sweeping generalization of the male gender), men my age seem to be more interested in woman *your* age.

As I, too, am anti-social (perhaps "avoidant" is the more accurate term), I find it difficult -- okay, not difficult, but *impossible* -- to leave the house to frequent those venues (i.e., bookstores, coffee shops, libraries) where I might meet potential relationship material. Shortly after my divorce, I posted a few personals ads on various websites, but after going on a few dates and collecting a number of horror stories, I finally realized that dating websites are not going to work for me. After all, they are meat markets in which I cannot compete.

*sigh* It is way past my bedtime (almost 2:00 AM here in Pennsylvania), so I think I will now sleep, perchance to dream...

Denise